Yesterday’s photo a day prompt was mirror, and all day I was thinking about what kind of shot I could take – preferably one that doesn’t have me in it! You see the thing is I’m not super happy with the way I look at the moment. I’ve always had a love/hate relationship with my body shape/size, and long ago I accepted that I am one of those people who has to watch what they eat and exercise regularly to maintain a ‘healthy’ weight. I’ve also come to terms with the fact that I’m also not someone whose weight just ‘falls off’ while they breast feed, in fact for me it is the opposite…. damn you hormones!
The thing is that I enjoy exercising, and I feel great about myself whilst I’m doing it, and afterwards as well… it’s just getting and perhaps more importantly keeping the motivation to do it. I’ve recently switched to a gym that is much closer to home and has more ‘friendly’ class times and this seems to be helping.
I know that I am lacking a bit of self confidence. We can put so much pressure on ourselves to live up to unrealistic expectations (my due date was around the same as Princess Kate & Kim Kardashian and look at them now….), that we unfairingly (that is so a word!) compare ourselves to others.
A few weeks ago I spent a few self indulgent hours at the hairdresser, and whilst reading the November issue of Marie Claire I came across the article ‘Instant Confidence’. It outlined some simple strategies which researchers believe will improve your self belief/self confidence and let’s be honest, we could all do with a bit more self belief I think.
* Coffee!!! YAY!! I’m happy to go along with any research that supports drinking coffee! Admittedly, I do really enjoy my early morning coffee before the chaos of the day starts, and I do miss it when I skip it (I’m so not addicted).
* Sit up straight – hmmm.. I do agree, I’m trying to sit up as straight as I can now and admittedly I feel a bit more important!!
* Change your hair colour – sorted, appointment in two weeks!
* Clean out your wallet- with the theory being by managing this everyday area of your life, it will help you feel more in control in other aspects of your life. I took this challenge and also included cleaning out my handbag. Considering I found sultanas that I believe started off as grapes in a container down the bottom of my bag, I’m feeling much more in control!
* Exercise! Well this one is a bit of a no brainer, and I totally agree with it. The research they quote is exercising for at lease 20 minutes at the gym will improve your mood for up to 12 hours. I totally agree with this, I feel so much better about myself (and others!!) after exercising.
I know that I am being tough on myself, and realistically I know that I probably won’t ever be completely happy with the way I look. It seems as though we are hardwired to always have one aspect of ourselves that we think needs improvement.
In the meantime, I’m trying to work on improving my self confidence and be proud of the way I look – this body of mine has spent the majority of the past three years either pregnant, or being pumped full of hormones for IVF, and has produced four children – so I probably should cut it some slack!
In the end I compromised and included a head shot in my photo, and with the magic of filters, I was pretty happy with how the shot turned out.
So I’m putting it out there – what strategies/tips do you have to help improve self confidence?
Linking up with Essentially Jess for IBOT