October Reflection

If there was a theme for October, I would have to say it was family.  We started the month in Bendigo on baby watch and we’ve ended the month back here again!  It’s been an amazing time for us being able to spend so much time with our family, and the fact that we were here when the newest member arrived was incredibly special.

We've clocked up a few frequent flyer points this month

We’ve clocked up a few frequent flyer points this month

Highlights of our month have been:

* Of course the arrival of our new nephew/cousin Flynn. I’m so happy to have another healthy baby boy join our family, and I know our three boys will grow up best mates (and no doubt will get into all sorts of trouble).

Troublemakers already

Troublemakers already

* Aiden started solids, finally reached 5kg, is now 5 months old (3 mths corrected) and is trying his hardest to roll over (Liam does try to help)

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* Liam has moved into a big boy bed and after a few false starts, he seems to have sorted himself out now

Seriously?

Seriously?

* We’ve been loving the gorgeous spring weather and have been spending a lot of time at our local park. Liam just loves going down the slide

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* We love our coffee dates, whether it’s catching up with friends, or just a date with my boys, we have a great time getting out and about (most of the time anyway!)

Concentrating hard

Concentrating hard

Even Aiden loves to go out too!

Even Aiden loves to go out too!

* I completed the full month of the FatMumSlim photo a day challenge.  I am still really enjoying this, and look forward to capturing a photo which represents the daily prompt – come and join me!

October

October

 

* Looking back at the photos I’ve taken last month, there are quite a few ‘sleep’ themed ones. Here are a few of my favourites

baby Liam

baby Liam

 

Someone is getting a bit big for their bassinet

Someone is getting a bit big for their bassinet

 

This doesn't look comfy!

This doesn’t look comfy!

* One of the best experiences from the past month has been the increasing interaction between Liam and Aiden. Whilst it’s not always positive – especially for Aiden, watching Liam cuddling his little brother and Aiden smile back at him just melts my heart… that is until Liam then starts trying to pull him along the ground!

Liam loves his little brother

Liam loves his little brother

I hope everyone has had a wonderful month – bring on November

xx

 

 

 

 

 

What’s next?

We met with a financial planner last week who put the questions to us – where do we see ourselves in 5, 10 and 20 years? From a financial perspective we were able to rattle off a plan… but from a personal perspective I was stumped.

This is a strange feeling for me.  I will admit I may have some control issues (ok, if  you were to ask Scott he will say I have a LOT of control issues), and in the past I have always needed to have a plan – whether it be in regards to career, health, financial or personal goals.  Generally I have been able to achieve most of these goals – albeit some have taken longer than others, and have taken a greater toll on me personally than expected.

To be honest, I’m exhausted…  Our five year journey to start a family has been tough.  Now that we have ‘achieved’ this (hmm, there is probably a better word than this?), we haven’t really thought about ‘what’s next’??? In fact, does there have to be a what’s next?  It seems as though we are expected to have plan in place – we are asked if/when we will have another baby (seriously I was asked this by a midwife when Aiden was less than 24hrs old and in NICU), when am I going back to work, what school are the boys going to, when are we going to toilet train Liam, when are we planning a trip to visit family…. and the list goes on!

It seems to be a constant question throughout life – when you start a relationship it’s’when are you moving in together’? Once you are living together – ‘When are you getting engaged’…. ‘When are you getting married? When are you having kids? When are you having another baby??  and so it goes on.

Is it a ‘bad’ thing to just stop and enjoy life for a little while without having a plan in place for our next life goal?

I’m making the decision to enjoy our family and life right now.  Instead of worrying myself about what I should or could be doing, or what I need to do next, I am going to give myself some ‘time off’ and LIVE life for awhile.

What do you think, do we always need to have a plan?

Let's stop and enjoy the view

Let’s stop and enjoy the view

Linking up with the Essentially Jess for IBOT

My Happy Place

Sometimes just thinking about your ‘happy place’ isn’t enough – you need to take action and go there.  This week I’ve felt myself getting frustrated quite a few times, and my usual technique of thinking about what makes me happy has just not cut it – mainly when I’ve been dealing with a tired cranky toddler who refuses to sleep…  oh yes, it’s been fun times at our house this week!

Although I’ve felt selfish and guilty for doing a few of these things (especially when I was upstairs in the bath and could hear both the boys crying with Scott) – they have certainly helped turn my mood around quickly and bring me back to a better place where I appreciate what I have and the challenges associated with it.

This week I’ve gone to my happy place when:

* Sitting down with Aiden for smiles and giggles – this always perks me up!

* Going to the gym for time by myself – I always feel so energised afterwards

* Treating myself to a bubble bath last night – it was bliss!

* Baking (what a surprise!)

* Catching up with friends for Coffee (another huge surprise there)

* Going on ‘dates’ with just Aiden… we have lots of smiles and giggles

What do you do when you need to go to your happy place?

This ALWAYS makes me happy!

This ALWAYS makes me happy!

A good day

I’m just over halfway through FatMumSlim October Photo a Day Challenge, and I’m very pleased to say I haven’t  missed a day since I started in August!  Yesterday’s prompt was ‘a good day’ and my interpretation was capturing a feeling/experience during the day which symbolised this.  As per the rules, you only post one photo per prompt/day.

Such a beautiful day!

Such a beautiful day!

Normally this isn’t a problem for me, but yesterday I found it really hard.  Throughout the day, there were many moments where I reflected on how lucky I am to be having these experiences with my family:

* Running 3km in 23mins (non stop) at the gym this morning – woohoo!

* Watching the big smiles on Liam’s face during his swimming lesson with Dad

* Finding an awesome pink chair for the study – thanks Ikea!

How awesome is this chair!

How awesome is this chair!

* Pretending to be potential home buyers whilst we sticky beaked at an open home near us!

* Going out for lunch with all of my boys

* Enjoying the gorgeous Spring weather whilst we explored the city

Liam loved spending time with his Dad today!

Liam loved spending time with his Dad today!

* Watching Liam hold Aiden’s hand whilst in the pram together

* Finding the perfect dress for Scott’s Christmas party!

Love it!

Love it!

* Watching the boys sleeping peacefully after their big day

Goodnight Aiden xx

Goodnight Aiden xx

I hope you are all having a great weekend, and had a great day no matter what you got up to x

This week….

It’s a gorgeous Sunday morning, I’ve been for a run, had breakfast, and whilst everyone is occupied, it’s given me the chance to enjoy a HOT cup of coffee and reflect on what I have been grateful for this week:

– Having my whole family back together again, the boys just love spending time with their dad

Sleepy time with Dad x

Sleepy time with Dad x

– Our evening family walks, even if it’s just around the block, it’s still nice to get out all together

The last hill is a killer

The last hill is a killer

– Getting back into our meal planning and exercise, I need to lose the couple of extra kilos I gained whilst away (plus the excess ‘baby’ weight)!

– Savouring the baby smiles and chuckles I am getting from Aiden at the moment

 

– In other Aiden news, he has put on 100g in 3 days! This is a big deal for us – we are slowly closing into the 5kg milestone!

Why don’t you take the time on this Sunday morning to reflect on your week…

xx

He is here!

When I woke at 3am Thursday morning I immediately saw a message from my sister asking if I was awake – fast forward several text messages and a phone call later – and we had determined she was in labour.  After a long day of updates, a quick trip to the hospital to drop off a phone charger (because how could she not be without her phone during this big occasion!), handsome little Flynn arrived early in the evening, weighing a health 3.16kg and just shy of 38 weeks gestation.

I feel incredibly blessed that I was able to visit with both little Flynn and my sister just a couple of hours after he was born.  I also reminded again how incredibly lucky we are to live in a country where such excellent health care is available. I am also incredibly happy that I was able to introduce my two happy and healthy boys to their special cousin this morning and I cannot wait to enjoy watching them all grow up together xx

Our boys meeting for the first time xxx

Our boys meeting for the first time xxx

Our two baby boys - just 18 weeks apart x

Our two baby boys – just 18 weeks apart x

September Reflection

Our month didn’t start off the best with Scott having fall on his bike, resulting in a broken collar bone and ac joint.  On

the plus side – for him at least – he got a new bike out of it.

 

 

Our patient

Our patient

The boys and I spent a large part of last month back in Bendigo on baby watch.  It was lovely to spend so much time with our family and friends.  Normally when we visit we are trying to cram so much into such a small amount of time.  The change in weather was certainly a shock to us all – it’s so cold down here even the trees need extra layers!

brrrr...

brrrr…

There has been a lot of baking this month!  I am currently in LOVE with Nigella Lawson’s ‘How to be a Domestic Goddess’ – thinking of making her Chocolate Marsala cake today..  Liam is always trying to muscle in and try whatever we are eating.  It’s hard to resist when he uses his manners and smiles so sweetly at you – he was not impressed last night when this effort didn’t pay off….

I'd really like some Mum!!

I’d really like some Mum!!

As we’re kind of on holidays, I’ve been taking the boys on a few outings and Liam has loved exploring new places and having new experiences.

Clay play at the Bendigo Pottery

Clay play at the Bendigo Pottery

Highlights of our month were:

* Spending time with my sister in lead up to her bubs arrival

* Tiffany reaching 37 weeks and officially being ‘full term’

* Liam chattering away, and finally mastering the use of ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.  Please is such a nicer alternative to ‘more’ and finger pointing.  Now if only he could learn to pronounce the ‘T’ in truck as it can sound like something else sometimes….

* Aiden is starting to put on more weight and now weighs 4.5kg!

* Completing another month of FatMumSlim’s Photo a Day challenge – who is going to join me for October?

One of my favourite photos from September's challenge - prompt is 'space'

One of my favourite photos from September’s challenge – prompt is ‘space’

The ‘lowlight’ of the month has certainly being away from Scott for the past two weeks.  We have all missed him, especially when both of the boys have wanted cuddles during the night.  He is coming down later this week to help me take the boys home.

We've all missed Daddy x

We’ve all missed Daddy x

I hope everyone has had a great month xx